During his lunchtime talk at XpUniverseTwoThousandTwo, KentBeck said many interesting things. One piece of his talk that struck a chord in me was what he said about the "L" word:
Preconditions and postconditions describe the properties of individual routines, or in this case, an individual's various actions. An invariant is a global property which must be preserved by all routines, or in this case, a personal choice that survives an individual's myriad actions in the software development process.
It helps me to consider love in this way because to me it emphasizes love as a decision and an action, enduring the ups and downs of a project's evolution. It also emphasizes to me that this love does not necessarily exist before or after the project, just during the project (though I hope that this love would survive the project).
A related discussion on the XpMailingList: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/extremeprogramming/message/57378
RonJeffries on EnforcingMethods:
KenAuer and RoyMiller from ExtremeProgrammingAppliedPlayingToWin, page 177: